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Mariah Maddox's avatar

Katz, the thing about choosing such love that you write of, I realize, is that we can’t be concerned with how the love will be received or met. While reading this, internally I’m like “Well people take my love for granted” or “Why should I continue opening myself to love if I end up bruised?” Particularly in platonic relationships, I’ve found that love is hard and messy and complex, and I am almost always waiting in anticipation of its demise. But through your words I gained a necessary reminder: my love shall not be concerned with another’s love. My love is my legacy. It is not dependent on how others receive it or choose to love me back. It is also not dependent on if I am wounded in the process. My love is my love and all that should matter is that I pour it from a decent, honest place — time and time again.

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Katz Llale's avatar

Reading your comment has made me feel like the intent and heart of these words have been fulfilled. And I’m grateful that it has been received in this way.

I appreciate your thoughtful comments and reflections. So much you say always resonates with my own path.

Thank you for receiving this offering. For sitting with it and allowing it to mirror parts that may feel too painful or uncomfortable.

Your love is truly your legacy. And where your heart may be mishandled, I pray that there may always be enough grace for it to be mended. 🫶🏾🌼

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Ashlee Robyn's avatar

This was GOOD! I just had to have this talk with myself recently because I noticed that I spent so many years with building my walls up to the point where the very things that make me radiant, I’ve suppressed them. all the strides I’ve taken to protect myself. I’ve never actually protected me hurt is inevitable in this life as long as we’re living.

The undoing and the rewiring is never ending as well. Our subconscious absorbs so many different opinions off the Internet and think pieces that we’re no longer operating as Individuals we’re all programmed to be the same and think the same. Glorifying the negative (i have trauma) versus doing the positive work and seeing life the way God intended.

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Katz Llale's avatar

Twinny,

Thank you so much for always sitting with my words and the reflection you have shared. Because you have captured it so well. That's exactly what's going on.

And I'm so glad that I could write something that makes you realise this with much more clarity. I hope you return to your light, to your heart, and all that makes you illuminate this world.

All my love 🌻🤎

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Ashlee Robyn's avatar

Love and appreciate you and your words, always twinny!

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Heike Evans's avatar

As always ...thank you for your words and an important topic so well illuninated. I sincerely hope that the Love and Trust you put out in the world will come back to you. In spite of some traumatic disappointments and breaches of trust , I have not allowed that to take away my trust in the inherent goodness of people ...and I have been very fortunate to have been blessed with many more loving and trusting relationships than negative ones. The recipe ...I have no idea ...perhaps just to be the change you wish to see in the world - be that loving and trustworthy soul !

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Katz Llale's avatar

Heike, I always appreciate your thoughts and reflections so much. Thank you for engaging with my work in this way and the resonance you always find.

I hope we may always protect the innocence of our hearts, to believe in the inherent goodness of people, to not let it be eroded by the bad that we may see or be subjected to. We are the light and may the dark never extinguish it. So thank you for that reminder too 🌼🫶🏾

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Tšhegofatšo Masilo Ndabane's avatar

My heart breaks every time I hear "nobody owes you anything." How easily this is thrown around and how readily it is accepted. There is so much we owe one another, not for any other reason but that we are in community simply because we are people. Navigating an uncertain, broken world together, even if we never get to know the unique complexities that make up others'. Thank you for being brave enough to make this clarion call. I so often see the blank stares when I speak candidly about the kinds of love I want to give and receive, refusing to be hardened by them is my own quiet rebellion. Our love is our legacy for real, and I want to leave a delicious fucking story. Full bodied and dripping like honey waiting to licked off an elbow.

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